What does it actually mean to take care of yourself?
Most people think self-care is a list of things they should do.
Meditation. Gym. Cold plunge. Eat clean. Sleep eight hours.
I used to think that too. Now I teach something different.
Fun first. Always.
Not the logical thing. Not the productive thing. The thing that makes you feel alive.
I train CrossFit five days a week. Padel four times. Run club. Muay Thai. I take care of my body like a professional athlete — electrolytes, nutrition, massage, physio. I do the inner work. I have friends in Bali I can be honest with when I feel avoidant or vulnerable. In the evenings I put on Lauryn Hill on vinyl and just breathe.
But here’s what I’ve learned: even a life that looks good on paper can become a programme.
I love my mornings at Nirvana Life. The food, the community, the ritual. But I noticed recently that going there every day was starting to feel automatic. And automatic is the enemy of alive.
Last Sunday I spent four hours with friends at a café near the ocean. We talked until sunset. Then we played pickleball and padel, and had the best burger I’d eaten in years. No agenda. No optimisation. Just presence.
The next day I felt recharged in a way my usual routine hadn’t given me in weeks.
Research on elite athletes confirms it — real recovery is emotional detachment as much as physical rest. You need to step away from even the things you love, so you can come back inspired.
So shake things up. Go to Ubud for a night. Dance. Surf. Sit with people you love until the sun goes down.
What if you could live inspired all the time?
That’s not a fantasy. That’s a choice you make when you stop doing what you should and start doing what makes you feel alive.
This is exactly what I’m asking the men joining my Become an Attractor retreat to do right now — before we even begin. Go for the fun. Get alive. Because when we meet in Bali on June 22nd, we go deep. Rewilding your everyday life. Mission. Non-neediness. Health. Attachment styles. Masculine and feminine energy. The full picture of what it means to be a man who attracts from the inside out.
2 spots left. June 22–27, Bali.
If this resonates, send me a message.
What’s one thing you could do this week that’s completely illogical — and completely necessary?
